V-Day: It’s So Hard To Date in this Town

In Blog, Events by Steph Janigo

Cupid draw back your bow and let your arrow flow straight to a lovers heart for us. Unfortunately our fat little angel of love might be caught up in a bathroom stall at the clerb so it’s really left up to you on what to do with your love life. Welp thats all folks, good luck out there in the jungle and we wish you a happy valentines…

…just kidding. But really. True love is hard to find. Sometimes you think you have true love and then you catch the early flight home from San Diego and a couple of nude people jump out of your bathroom blindfolded like a goddam magic show ready to double team your girlfriend. We’ve all been there right? Figuratively speaking. Dating is most likely not going to be like the predictable rom-coms on Hallmark, and we most likely won’t end up with that prince charming or wonder woman on the first try. BUT we’re sure as hell have to keep believing they’re out there somewhere maybe under all the snow gear and powder. 

So to all you loved up ones with significant others whether it be sugar daddies and mommies, husbands, wives, or your lover – congrats! Enjoy this sappy holiday and do us a favor and do something especially nice for that special someone. 

Now for every one else waking up alone, heavy hearted, and wondering why? Let’s try and debunk this dating myth…because we’re our own biggest cock blockers. There are a lot of people who would have you believe “It’s so hard to date in this town.” We’ve lost count of how many times we have heard this phrase uttered here in Aspen. Whether it be a friend venting, or just heard in passing, this seems to be a thought that runs through many Aspenite’s heads. Well folks, welcome to earth where dating is hard. If there was a place that was known for it’s easy dating scene then their housing crisis would make ours look like a joke. You can count on the fact that people in Manhattan, L.A., Tulsa OK, and Mobile AL are experiencing the same dating struggles we have here in this valley. Geographical locations are not what make a dating scene tough, human beings make it hard, so many times our wants do not coincide with our needs. Most of the time we are our own worst enemy when it comes to finding someone. We get caught up in a slew of constraints that society has laid out for us, most of which are not helpful when trying to find a person that you would like to have a relationship with. So maybe its not Aspen, maybe it’s you? 😉

If anything we should thank our town for getting the ball rolling in our dating lives, we all chose Aspen as our home. There is a underlying commonality shared by most of us; in that somewhere along the line a decision was made to pack up and move to a ski town. So even if a person might seem a little different from what you would consider your type they are probably more so than the guy hanging out in the Honky Tonk in Waco, Texas or the girl hitting on you the Miami clerbs. We share some core sensibilities here that aren’t easily found in other places; like wanderlust, active lifestyles, and partying your face off five nights a week. In other locations you have to seek out these types of characteristics in a ski town they are the norm. That said dating is still going to be difficult here in Aspen but at least just by being here you have narrowed the playing field.

Like most humans, we want our cake and to eat it too. Yes it is hard to disappear here and branch out to another side of town where you might not run into the same people all the time. Look, if you see the same folks at the club every weekend you might try going to Après for a beverage one sunny Sunday afternoon. Don’t limit yourself just because it’s a small town for it’s a big valley and there are awesome people located all over it. So keep your head up everybody and keep swiping left, life’s full of surprises. Failure is always an option and with dating failure tends to be a given but with every stumble, think of it as one step closer to finding someone that truly makes you shine. In the meantime if you need an excuse to get the ball rolling Valentine’s Day is here so grow some and go ask out that crush you have been scoping out since the beginning of the season. And if dating’s got you down just remember the immortal word of The Rolling Stones, “You can’t always get what you want but if you try sometimes you might find you get what you need.”

Good luck out there and happy hunting.        


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